422. Let's See Where This Girl Talk Goes

On this episode, Nellie reflects on her personal growth, the importance of community, and the concept of "debt" beyond money, such as sleep, time, and emotional debt. 
Nellie emphasizes the value of emotional freedom and the fleeting nature of negative emotions. She discusses strategies for managing stress, such as interpreting brain messages positively and using journaling to identify patterns. Nellie shares plans for a trip to Vegas, including packing strategies and the benefits of TSA PreCheck. 
She expresses gratitude for their achievements and look forward to future opportunities, highlighting the importance of being mindful and finding the silver lining in situations.

We will touch on:

• Girl Talk and Personal Growth
• Emotional Freedom and Debt
• Summer Break and Mental Preparation
• Interpreting Brain Messages and Emotional Intelligence
• Finding the Silver Lining
• Preparation for a Trip to Vegas
• Reflecting on Personal Growth and Success
• Mindset and Abundance
• Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Transcript

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I have no idea what we're about to talk about. We're just kind of see where this, this takes us. Because I'm sitting here, well, now I'm driving, but I'm like, I don't know what I want to talk about. And like, intuitively, what shows up for me is I'm I'm so quick to be like, Okay, what value can I provide? What type of motivation do people need today? Like, how can I just, like, activate you and help you learn something and be more valuable to you, which I think is important. I really do think that that is important. I always want to add value to people's lives. And also, sometimes I might cry. Oh, my gosh, damn, I didn't. I didn't see that one coming. Sometimes I think I go, I don't want to say like, above and beyond, but I think I worry about it so much that I'm not valuable enough, that it can actually be a slippery slope for me, because I want to do so much good, I want to provide so much value. I want you to win so badly that it can like I have to be very, very careful and mindful, because every person is good enough as they are, and so it's like being careful that I don't feel like I have to, like, prove myself, like I really do love that more, like chill leaned out like I know my worth, I know I know our shit works, and I know my value, and I don't need to go above and beyond to constantly prove it. So I'm being really, really mindful of that. So we're just gonna, like, have Girl Talk, like, you know, and I always think that there's like, Aha moments in Girl Talk too, because that connection is huge. Like, that's what I crave the most, to be honest. Like, you can go, you literally, you can go buy a bunch of books. You can YouTube your your way through business. You like, there's so many resources in today's world, and it's about being resourceful. But like, what I crave the most is, like, the community, the connection, the camaraderie, the accountability, that stuff is harder to manufacture on your own. And I think that we're really, really good at it, at the wealthy mama movement. And so I'm just as I'm going through my own Naked method. I've just been really allowing anything and everything to show up and like, ask, like, What is this supposed to teach me? Like, what is this trying to reveal to me? You know, what do I need to clear? What do I need to heal? And just, you know, gaining more and more of that emotional freedom is everything, like, it's everything, but equally, it can be painful. It can be painful, but, like, the pain doesn't last forever, and it's very It's very short lived. And I'm, like, reminding myself of that, of like, anytime I feel like yucky, stagnant energy, or like an emotion that I don't love. It's very, very fleeting, because I'm working through it so fast and so I think that that's just like a really good reminder and call out like it actually is so much more helpful and so much more free to just go ahead and feel so you can heal and move forward, than to like stuff it down, because subconsciously, even if you don't necessarily like think about it, you feel it like your body feels it. And that's why like it can just be harder to believe in yourself. It can be harder to follow through. It can be harder to just to continue to move forward on some days. And it's because of all of that like, stuffed down, stagnant energy, emotions like and really like, the last year has been like allowing all of that to erupt is the only way I can describe it. And so it, I do find that like as now being like a year into what I now am calling the naked method, I have a feeling, and it's so fleeting, like it just like I move through it. And like people talk about money debt all the time, but there's so many other forms of debt that we do not acknowledge. There's sleep debt, there's time debt, like you have so much on your plate, like on your schedule, task debt, laundry, dishes, um. Not acknowledging your emotions. So there's, like, so much emotional debt, relationship debt. Like, maybe there's conversations that you haven't had, maybe boundary debt and like, eventually there's a program that I want to release around debt that I'm really excited about, because everyone talks about money debt, and everyone has different opinions about money debt, but like no one's talking about all the other forms of debt. And here's the thing I've realized while going on the naked method journey, is when you actually start to clear the other forms of debt, you open up your capacity for your wealthiest life to come in. Like I've had moments recently, as I've just been clearing more and more and more and more and more where I'm like, wow. Like I really feel like I can hold a seven figure business again, like I like in a good way, like I feel emotionally ready. I feel like I've got the capacity more and more and more every single day that like I've had those moments where I'm like, I feel like I like, I feel like I've got this like, and that feels really good. And like I even noticed that too, or like, a lot of people, like a lot of moms, are like, Oh my gosh, summer break is like chaos and exhaust, like exhaustion and like, there's obviously moments of that, but like, I'm not speaking, I'm not speaking energy into that story. Like there will be moments of chaos and exhaustion, for sure, it's reality of having, you know, kids at home in the summer. But what I'm speaking belief into and energy into is like we're gonna have so much fun. We're keeping a structure. I have plans in place. I'm getting organized. You know, I've given my Husband, husband like a code word. I have a protocol in place that I need to, just like, you know, get out of the house when he gets home. Like I have measures in place. That's what I'm speaking belief into. That's what I'm speaking energy into. And I can absolutely control that I can't always control, you know, if my kids wake up upset, or if they have a meltdown, like, I can't always control that, nor do I want to control them in that way. I want to be there for them emotionally. And so it just feels really good to be like, yeah, like, I've I've got this summer break dialed in, like, I've got this seven figure vision and plan dialed in, like I feel like I can hold it, and I've got protocols that when I don't feel like I can hold it, I know what I can do. And so it's like everything is always leading us to the next moment. And every like, every emotion we have and every thought and feeling we have is trying to send us a message. And it's not always literal, like if you have fear of paying your bills, that's not the message that your brain is trying to send you. To me, how I would interpret something like that is, if you have a fear of paying your bills, the the brain is sending you the message of, we don't feel safe. Get us feeling safe. So then you could start to ask yourself, Okay, what is the amount of money that I need to get ahead right? Then you go on a saving spree, a money making spree, if you will, to focus on securing that cash, and then you're going to start feeling safer. So you use the message from your brain as a positive message, and you took aligned action that for every additional dollar that you make and save, you're going to feel better. You're going to feel better, and it's because you chose to use that message and interpret it in a positive way. When your brain is sending you the message that we're tired, you can either whine and complain that you're tired, or you could go take a nap. You could go drink a glass of water. You could go work out like so it's like interpreting, interpreting the messages of our brain to work for us and our body, for that matter, and honoring that and always using it to your advantage. Like, I always appreciate when other humans communicate to me and say something, like, I'm upset, and this is why, and I'm like, Okay, let's talk about it. It takes a lot of an emotional it takes a lot of emotional intelligence. You. For somebody to do that, and I always appreciate it, even if it, you know, like I'm a human, like, even like, if it hurts in the moment, I appreciate that. Like they were direct and gave feedback and we could, like, lovingly talk about it. My husband, I've had so many of these moments, even recently, and I've just had a way different approach with them, because I can't read minds, right, and so your brain is sending you messages as if it's a different human, telling you, hey, we want more safety, we want more energy, we want more happiness, we want more connection, and so often we're ignoring our brain. If you had somebody that you really, really loved, and they kept sending you messages and kept telling you, this is what I need, this is what I want, they were being so loving, so direct. Now sometimes the brain isn't loving. There's that however we can work on that, but anyways, like, the point here is, the more we can listen to those messages and interpret them in a positive way and have them help you, right, like, get your brain on board. Like, Mind Body Soul is what's key. So, mind, body, soul connection. So when we can do that, everything will change. You will trust yourself more, you will feel better. You'll be more confident. Like people are always looking for the how, but they're looking for the how outside of themselves, instead of like, what do I need? Like no one knows you more than you know yourself. And even if you don't feel like you know yourself, it's because we're not listening to you. So when you can start to listen to those little nudges of like, we're tired, we're hungry, we want more safety, whether that be emotional or financial or time. Like, if you're if you keep saying that you don't have enough time, your brain is saying, we are burnt out. We are overloaded. Give us a break, right? Like, give us a break. A lot of people scroll social media, or, you know, watch Netflix, because the brain is literally like, we are exhausted. We are exhausted. So whatever shows up for you, like, use all of this and like, like, this is why journaling is so powerful, because when, when it's just like, kind of like, your brain is sending you these messages through the day, and it's kind of foggy, when you can put those messages on paper, then you can, like, it's almost like a bird's eye view. You can start to see the correlation. And it's interesting, because I leave for Vegas tomorrow when I'm recording this, and I'm always staying very open, I take the approach of, like, having a very easy going vibe in business as much as I can. But I leave for Vegas tomorrow, and I had several meetings booked for today, and one moved, and it was my longest meeting for today, and they moved it, and I was like, okay, like the universe is saying, Hey, we wanted to give you some extra time today. We know you leave for Vegas. So it's like, I always strive to see the silver lining. Find the silver lining. There's so much more peace and positivity when you can look for the silver lining, and it's not always easy. For sure, I've had some challenging moments over the last year that I've had to really dig deep and be like, like, what's the silver lining here? Like, where is it? How can I like, How can I spin this? And I think that that's important, because there's always something we can learn. There's always a way to shift it in our mind when we desire to do that. And so I now, like, I'm on my way back to there was a lot of traffic, but like, I'm on my way back to my house. I've got three hours that I was not going to have today, Kid free, that I'm like, going to be a maniac on a mission and get as much done as I possibly can. Like it would be nice to be able to go ahead and pack for my Vegas VIP retreat, and be able to pack before tonight when I don't know how the kids are going to be tonight, like Boone was up up multiple times last night, so that is top priority, like laundry pack. What else do I want to do today in my new free time? Dishes? Dishes, definitely which I could do something while I do the dishes to, like, dump. Dip, respond back to a couple clients. So just like, clean up, get organized, feel refreshed, which is good because then I've got time later tonight that I was going to do all of those things. Now I've freed up that to be whatever it needs to be. So like, spend a little bit more time with my family, you know, knock out a few business things, but be but get more ahead. Get ready to go. And so there's just, there's always a way to find a silver lining when you're looking for it. So, so, yeah, I leave for Vegas tomorrow. I get to see two incredible humans that I really love, which I'm very much looking forward to. I'm also looking forward to heading to the airport tomorrow I will be traveling alone, and it's I actually prefer after noon flights. Typically, I'm either going to be like, an afternoon flight gal, or, like, super early in the morning if I'm going somewhere nice, I like, super early in the morning if I'm going alone, I like an afternoon and the reason why is I I definitely could have booked an earlier flight for tomorrow, like I could have had more time in Vegas, but with the season of life that I'm in right now, I always like to be cogniz. I always have a hard time saying that word. I like to be mindful. We'll use that word instead. That's an easier word to say. I like to be mindful of you know, I could have booked an earlier fight flight tomorrow, but my husband's work hours. He goes to work at 4am um, and he gets home at like 3pm so it would have caused him to take more time off of work, which he would totally do for me, but I didn't need to go early to Vegas, so I chose a later flight equally. I have a training for clients that I would have had to move to because I would have been in the air. So I really looked at my flight options. I found a direct flight later in the day. I'm not going to be stressed. I get to, like, drop off my kids, which actually really helps me. I like to be able to, like, just hug them one more time, drop them off. I'll have time to still come back home do my training. I'm already going to be packed because that's about, that's what I'm about to go do. I think you promise. But I'll be able to do my training for my clients, and literally, like we live so close to the airport, I'll be able to head right to the airport. From there, I'll be early for my flight still, which is nice. Oh, and I I forgot that I have TSA PreCheck. Fuck yeah. I completely forgot about that. We got that for Disney, and it's good. I think it's good for either a year or multiple years. I forget, but I just got it so I know it's still good. Yes, yes, yes, yes. I even thought about maybe not checking a bag. I'm really considering it. I have, I don't think I have ever, never, have I ever, I don't think I've ever not checked a bag. I think I've always checked the bag, but it would save me so much time. Hmm, my only concern is makeup and like, shampoo. But I'm kind of digging at least this idea I don't need, especially with the naked method, like, I don't have a lot of stuff on purpose. My only fear this is, sounds so silly, but like, you know how like, you have, like, I'm so little and to, like, get my suitcase up in the like, the compartment is not always the easiest thing, but I think it's worth it for the speed of not having to check a bag. So I just have to be mindful of, like, what I take in my checked bag. But I'm kind of thinking, I kind of think I want to, it would save so much time. Anyways, I'm going to get to the airport early, which is really nice. I'm going to be able to sit down. There's a place at the airport that I really like, and they have, like, appetizers and like, they have flights of wine. And I'm like, I'm going to sit there because I'm going to get there a little early. I'm going to have a little appetizer and a flight of wine. I can't even remember the last time I had any alcohol. It's been a really long time. I can't remember. Yeah, Sarah, I'm gonna need to, I'm gonna need to get a little master class on you from carrying a bag, because I I've never done it. So I feel like you need to Pop My Cherry. Tell me. Tell me all the ins and outs. I know that, like you can't have I. Certain liquids, obviously, like, not sharp things, duh. I know I can have, like, my backpack with my work bag, and then I can carry the piece of luggage on the smallest piece of luggage, I need to make sure it would still be the size. So that's like, one thing I need to check. But anyways, I'm gonna get to the airport early and, like, sit down, order that delicious food, have a moment to myself, open up my laptop while they're you know, while I'm waiting to be boarding, which I'm super excited about. And then I've got a four hour, four hour direct flight. You know how much I can get done traveling, traveling alone for four hours, and I don't need internet. Like, I have a whole list of things that if the internet is shit, it will not stop me, because sometimes it's hit or miss with the internet and the air. But I have a whole list that has been weighing on me. And I'm like, this is the perfect opportunity. I am getting the I'm getting the gift of, like, easily clearing some of these last minute, like, not last minute, but, like, things that I've been wanting to clear but just haven't had, like, the bandwidth and the the time to just, like, bust through them that I'm like, I know I'll be sitting on that plane. Oh my gosh, I can't I cannot even wait like I'm already getting in the energy of it's getting done. My client has her own hotel room, and I have my own hotel room. I did that for both of us. You know, when do you have, like, your own hotel room? It was worth the extra money, especially for her. This is her VIP weekend. I didn't want her to feel like she like, you know, I know her very well, but like, it's nice to be able to have your own space. So I felt very abundant of like, Do you know what? Like two hotel rooms please. Hopefully we're close together. I'm going to manifest that, but I know where I'm going to, like, I have a whole plan for her. I know where I'm going to take her. I know Vegas, like the back of my hand. I get to see another client before my VIP weekend that lives there, which I'm really, really excited about that. But I don't even know why I was saying all of this to you, besides, like, like, it's just like being in the energy and like enjoying what I, what I, what I can, right? And so it's like the plan of, like, knocking stuff out on the plane, getting there, I'll have some time to refresh and seeing, seeing my other client having a hotel, hotel room alone, so like, I'm filling up my cup. I'm knocking out stuff. I have a little mini launch that I'll be doing just very lightly, nothing crazy, but pouring into my client. This is, like, her, her celebration trip, which I'm super excited just to pour into her and celebrate her. And I was already thinking of ideas this morning to, like, add and surprise her, like, this is what I love to do. And I think sometimes I take it for granted, because, like, old me, old me would be like, oh, one day, one day, if we could just be able to do this, like what I'm doing now, and it's so easy to brush it off and just keep moving. The finish line is always moving. But it's like, I am really practicing being in the fruits of my labor and being like, this is good enough. I'm gonna cry. Like, this is good enough. Like this is more. It's more than good enough. Like, I have two kind humans that I get to go see, and they like, want to see me. And I get to work on my like, I get to work on the the airplane and get some stuff done for my business. I get to sleep in a hotel room alone, pour, pour, like, fill up my cup. Then an early flight back on Sunday. And then I get to spend time with my babies. And then this is my last work trip for a very, very long time, which I also love. And then, literally, next week is summer. And so it's just it's good enough, it's good enough, it's good enough, and it's only going to get better. And that's exciting too. And so it's like when we're in a sense of it's good enough, I believe that's being an abundant energy when we don't feel like it's good enough. I think that that's the lack mentality, the lack the scarcity. And I'm really catching myself when I am in that, and then I move through it very quickly. So I hope something on here was really helpful, but you are good enough. What you're doing is good enough, and it's only going to get better. All right, high fives. I love you so much, and I'll talk to you soon. Bye.