493. How To Get Everything You Always Want - Part 2

On this episode, Nellie emphasizes the importance of adopting a positive mindset and consistent actions to achieve financial and personal goals. She discusses the concept of "climbing the wealthy ladder" versus the "blah ladder," urging listeners to break free from negative self-talk and reinforce positive affirmations. She highlights the significance of saying "yes" to desires and taking small, manageable steps towards achieving them. Nellie also stresses the importance of persistence, support from others, and focusing on the "how" and "who" to overcome challenges. The ultimate goal is to create a life filled with ease, flow, and fun by aligning one's energy with their aspirations.

We will touch on:

• Choosing the Wealthy Ladder
• The Role of Energy and Perspective
• Understanding Energetic Matches
• The Power of Saying Yes
• The Importance of Persistence
• Creating a Wealthy To-Do List
• The Role of Support and Community
• The Impact of Discomfort and Patience
• The Importance of Enjoying the Journey
• The Role of Mindset and Belief

Let's Take Some Action:

• Create a list of your desires and prioritize them from easiest to most challenging.
• For each item on the list, identify the "how" (steps to achieve it) and the "who" (people who can support you).
• Start taking action on the easier items on your list to build momentum and confidence.

Transcript

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It's a great day to be wealthy. We're back for part two of how to get everything that you want, and I'm gonna add in record time and with ease, flow and fun. So if that sounds good to you, this is part two of the whole conversation. I walk you through an entire exercise that makes this so user friendly. People love a plan, and I'm giving it to you on like a sparkly platter, and you have to follow it. You get to follow it. But a lot of times when we don't know how to make things happen. That's what we struggle with. So knowledge is power. So if you're listening to this episode, you can't say you cannot say that you don't know how to get everything you want. You get to break up with I can't afford that. That's too much money. That's expensive. I'm broke, I'm living paycheck to paycheck. I cannot stress this enough, those things can absolutely be true, and also, you don't have to keep feeding that energy by reinforcing it with your words and your actions. Your brain only knows what. You keep telling it over and over and over, and if you are climbing what I call the blah ladder, you cannot climb the wealthy ladder at the exact same time. Like, imagine if there were two ladders. Okay, let's just, let's go ahead. And if you're watching me on video right now, I'll just give you a visual aid. Okay, if there were literally two ladders side by side, okay, side by side, there were two ladders. Okay, even if you wanted to, you could not climb both of these ladders successfully at the exact same time. So if this one is the blah ladder on the left and this one is the money ladder, which one do you want to climb? Like spicy Nelly is coming out to play because you're choosing which one you were on. I don't care what's in your bank account right now. I don't care how much time you have or don't have. I don't care how far along you are in your business. I don't care if you're consistent or not consistent on marketing, on social media, everything can change when you change which ladder you're choosing to climb. And sweet if you're already on the wealthy ladder. Guess what? We're just going to keep climbing. Now. You can argue that you're human. You're going to have human moments where you hop over to the blah ladder, of course, especially if you have kids, there's moments where there's sicknesses or maybe there's a challenge with the client. I'm not saying that it's sunshine and rainbows and unicorns and butterflies, and you're just always going to be on the wealthy money ladder, and you'll just keep climbing and keep climbing it. You're going to have moments where you feel a little blah. But the key here is you're not feeding the energy and you're not continuing to take all the steps up the blah ladder. So you might have a moment where you hop over to the blah ladder for a moment, but then again, you can be there for a moment and choose to go back. So every time you keep reinforcing the blah energy you are quite literally climbing the blah ladder. And the more you keep climbing the blah ladder, the harder it is to move back to the wealthy ladder. Okay, so I typically give myself like a time limit, depending on what it is the situation. But I have been consciously paying attention to my energy, to my words, to my actions, as if I'm like, as if somebody is following me around and grading me like, you know how people are different on reality shows, because there's like cameras on them, kind of pretend like that's happening, okay, if I were to follow you around in the least, creepiest way for an entire week, would you make different decisions? Would you act different? Would you dress different? Would you talk differently? If there was the Nelly camera crew just following you around, right? And if the answer is yes, guess what? Then you're choosing to climb on the blah ladder, right? If the answer is no, like, I feel like you would be really proud of me Nelly, like, then we're just going to supercharge this, right? And we're just going to keep the. Going up and up and up and up the the wealthy ladder and feeling more and more all the juiciness. Okay, so I want to give a shout out to my dear friend, Heidi. I've known her for a while now, and I was so humbled and like just so joyful that she wanted to sponsor this episode today. So she is a Christian ADHD life coach. This woman is so sweet, so kind. I'm just glad that our worlds collided and we're like, reconnecting. And then when she wanted to sponsor this episode, I was like, Oh my gosh, I love social media. So she has a 30 day ADHD challenge. I linked it in our podcast, so you can check her out, not only for the free challenge, check her out on social media. She has so many beautiful resources and is just crushing it in the online space and helping us neuro divergent humans feel a little a little normal and like navigate this world and and not even navigate it, but thrive. So. Heidi, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for sponsoring this episode. I'm so grateful for you. So I wanted to just to get you in the mindset and the energy of like every moment is a choice. You can be in the same exact situation, but have a whole different energy, a whole different perspective. We can't control other people, but we can control us, how we show up. And so I have been really consciously paying attention to what energy am I feeding, because that really does play a part in you being and continuing to stay an energetic match for everything that you desire. So let me just like, break this down, because sometimes when I say an energetic match, people are like, can you like? That feels confusing to me. Okay, so when you're on the blah ladder, it's very low energy. So when you're tired, you feel blah, it's really low energy. Okay, when you are mad, it's very heavy, low energy. When you are when you're nervous or overwhelmed, it's like a very tense, tight energy that still is really like low Okay, um, so it's all very low energy, very heavy energy. You know what I'm talking about. These feelings don't feel great in our body, they cause a lot of stress to your body. And we all know what stress can do causes wrinkles. We don't want wrinkles. Ladies. Like, skincare is great, but like, let's let's be less stressed. And so much, so much of adult stress can be prevented. Okay, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna call the elephant out in the room. 90% of the stress that you're currently feeling can actually be prevented now that 10% is like, the things that can't Right? Like a child having a meltdown, you can't always predict that, or a child waking up in the middle of the night, or maybe you get an unexpected bill that you truly were not you weren't expecting, right? So, like, there are things in life that we just don't see coming that we can't predict. That's like that 10% but again, can you imagine, if you didn't have that other 90% on top of the 10% the the 10% would feel so like, just like a blimp in time, right? And so when we can fixate on the what we can control, which is that 90% and just not stress about the things that we can't control, right? And just know that, like, we'll, we'll tackle them, and it will be like, we'll just, we'll figure it out. We trust ourselves, right? So 90% of the stress, which is also, again, blah, energy, can actually be prevented. Okay? Now may, it may take a little bit of time to get through that 90% right? I'm talking health and fitness, I'm talking finances, I'm talking partner communication, I'm talking a home organization. There's so many things that if you were to give me a punch list of things that are currently stressing you out, we get to call ourselves forward and say, Oh yeah, like, I'm the one climbing the blah ladder, and I keep climbing it, rather than, like, just pausing and. Saying, How can I start to really climb the wealthy ladder, right? Like I'm done climbing the blah ladder, say it with me. I am done. I am no longer available for climbing the blah ladder. Okay, so when I talk about being an energetic match for everything that you desire. It's all living on the wealthy ladder everything that you desire. If you were to also give me a punch list of everything that you desire, which is what we did in part one, if you remember, write down everything that you want and prioritize it from easiest to to obtain to more challenging, right? This is your this is your want list. Okay? All of your wants, your desires, live on the wealthy ladder. So when I said from easiest to most challenging, essentially, what I'm having you do is climb the wealthy ladder. Okay, so if we started with the most challenging you're not an energetic match yet for that most challenging thing. But if I said I want you to go get, you know, a certain drink today, right at Starbucks, maybe that was, like, one of your wants. Maybe you haven't had Starbucks in so long, and you're like, oh my gosh, I just want, like, I just want to sit in my car and drink Starbucks in silence. Maybe that's like, one of the first things on your list. I've been there. I have been there. And so if I had you go do that first, that feels pretty attainable, right? And so when we can go from easiest to most challenging as you climb the wealthy ladder, you're becoming an energetic match for those more challenging things. So by the time you reach that step of the ladder, it won't feel challenging. So it currently feels challenging because you're not there yet. Okay, how you feel about the most like the easiest thing is how you will actually eventually feel about more of those, like, challenging things. You're just not there yet. But how we get you there is that list prioritizing it easiest to more challenging, because then that gives you a step by step of like, okay, I'm just going to keep climbing the wealthy ladder. So you already are worthy, and you already deserve everything on your want list. And so the things that are bigger we we get to become that energetic match for them, okay? And so when we can really think about you as a human, and who do you need to become internally, more than anything else, internally, who do you need to become to be an energetic match for that? Thing is how you will create it with ease, flow and fun, and how you will keep it okay and so the trickiest part with this is a lot of people hop back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. Okay? I can even see past patterns of myself going back and forth. People, yo yo with their diet, right? They yo yo with their money. They yo yo in relationships. And there's always going to be ebbs and flows, but I'm talking about like huge extremes. We're not meant to feel those massive extremes. We're gonna like, ebb and flow. That's normal, right? But not those, like, complete like, up and down, up and down, where it's like, Oh, I feel like I'm literally starting from ground zero. Again, we're not meant to feel those things. And again, so much of those things that are the extremes are so preventable, and so a lot of people are jumping back and forth, back and forth, and they're even climbing on the blah ladder and staying there longer, and then they go back down, like lower on the wealthy ladder once they come back, and that's what's making it feel so difficult to create the life that you're really wanting to create. You're like, Man, this is exhausting, and it's because you're jumping back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And so when we can continue to stay on our wealthy our wealthy ladder, then you don't create that whiplash back and forth. And even if we have moments, quick moments, where we. We hop on the wealthy ladder because, again, or the blah ladder, because we're human, it's like, so quick, and then you hop back and that, like, again, that is normal, but you can see it and feel it so quickly where you're like, okay, like, I'm gonna take a moment, I'm gonna whine, I'm gonna complain, just for a moment, I need to, like, get it out right, or maybe a really good cry. As women, we are hormonal. There is a lot going on internally, so we want to, we want to honor everything that we're experiencing. And like, I don't know about you, but when I, like, have a really good cry, I feel so much better after because I'm like, I'm literally releasing those emotions. I'm not suppressing them. So that is a moment where we're on the blah ladder, and we just are allowing ourselves and giving ourselves permission, but like, there's a there's a clock ticking right? It's like, I'm I'm not willing to stay here. So the beautiful part about this is, even when you're on the blah ladder, but you're giving yourself a time limit, you're still on the wealthy ladder. You're welcome, because you're in control. You're choosing to stay there for a certain amount of time and you're not climbing, you're not feeding the energy. More and more and more. If we continue to to say, I'm broke, I'm broke, I'm broke. This house is stressing me out. This house is stressing me out. My clients are stressing me out. Then you are climbing the blah ladder. You are climbing it, and you've got to admit it to yourself. You don't have to admit it to anyone else, but you have got to admit it to yourself. If there is something that you continue to say and we aren't actively, consistently doing something about it to to solve that problem, then you are truly climbing the blah ladder, and it's so fixable. So I don't want you to feel shame. I don't want you to feel like, Oh, that sucks. I want you to get fired up, and I want you to say, no more. Like, no more. I'm no longer available for climbing the blah ladder. Okay, I'm no longer available for climbing the blah ladder. And this is so helpful, like I was even noticing this with my children, where, like, Boone would wake up in the middle of the night and I would just feed the energy. I was so mad, I was so frustrated, I was so tired. And again, all of these things have valid feelings in them, but we don't have to feed the blah valid feelings more than we choose to. Okay, and so I've noticed a huge shift energetically, where I'm just like, try me, try me. There's been so many things even in the last week that I've literally just laughed. I've laughed like my car would not start on Sunday, so then my husband had to jump it, it then didn't start again on Monday. Thankfully, Emma didn't have school. So then we called Triple A. We got that fixed. It was$300 it was like, thankfully, again, shift of energy. I'm so glad this actually happened, because it was from Sunday to Monday. It was on my to do list, but Lord only knows how long that would have taken, and I go to nd for the Taylor Swift concert in about a month. God forbid. I would not want to get stuck right in a parking garage or something like that, and have to call triple A and then, like, wait and delay things or not be able to, like, get to nd that would be, like, not fun. So the universe, divine intervention, right? Of like, you know what we're going to take care of this Nelly for you. We're just going to expedite this on your to do list, where, in a beautiful way, we're going to force you to do this right now, right like we're not waiting. We're going to do it right now. My dry or not, my dryer, my washer stopped working. We got that fixed. But again, like just so many things, boons wake woken up multiple times in the middle of the night this week. But I don't talk about these things more than I need to, because, again, I don't want to feed the energy of them, okay. And so we just want to keep being mindful of what energy we're creating around ourselves, because that is what ladder you're climbing. Okay, okay, so let's get to the actual, like, neat, of what I wanted to talk to you about in this episode. Okay, so in part one, I didn't go really deep into the how, and I promised you that I would come back for a part two. So here I am for part two. Okay, so I had you. Brain dump everything that you want. I then had you put it in order of easiest to obtain to most challenging. It feel again. It feels challenging right now, but it's not impossible. I was just working with a client today where she says, I just want to I want to say yes. More. She's like, I'm getting so exhausted, right? Pay attention to these words. I'm getting so exhausted by having to say no to the things that I desire. This was literally today, okay? I'm getting exhausted by saying no to the things that I desire, and even, like a not yet to the things that I desire. And so what I asked of her is to say, because she she's moved from No, because it was exhausting her so much, to now she has moved to it's not a no, but it's a not yet. But even her energy and her body language around the not yet still felt like a a blah body language and energy like you could feel like the bum, like the bum ness of it, the the blahness of it. And so I called her forward and said, I want you to break up with the not yet you already broke up with the No, because that was exhausting. You. She then moved to the not yet, but that wasn't even feeling good. And I said, What if you just started saying yes, and you could see her like, kind of like, be like, I can't say yes to everything. But here's the beautiful part about this whole exercise that I'm teaching you. You actually can say yes. You can say yes twice. Here's the coolest part about this, this framework that I'm teaching you, again, your brain only knows what you tell it, so if you say no over and over and over to the things that you're desiring, no matter how big or how small they are, okay? It's creating your reality, even when you say, not yet. It has this confusion, confusing energy about it, where it's like, oh, I want that thing, but not yet, right? It's that like tug of war. To me, that's on, that's on. You're on both. You're trying to be on both ladders, right? It's very confusing. Energy to the world, to the universe. And so the powerful part is, even if it's the most outlandish thing, you can actually say yes right now, no matter what's in your bank account, no matter what version of yourself is in this world right now, no matter how much time you have or don't have, every desire that you currently have, every want that you currently have, you can actually say yes. This is where people get confused. When you say yes, you create this beautiful dopamine where you're like, yes, I want that thing. Yes, I'm going to go get that thing. Okay, now, does that mean that you pull out your credit card or your cash or whatever it may be right then and there? It doesn't have to and it may not actually be the best decision, okay, depend. Again, we're depending on where you're at on your wealthy ladder. We want to be an energetic match for it so you can keep it Okay. And how you know if you're an energetic match for it is if you don't hesitate and you just pull out your credit card or your debit card or your cash, because think about it right now, in your current reality, there are moments where you don't hesitate. Okay, it could be a certain thing that you're buying. It could be a certain dollar figure, but start to pay attention to what things and what dollar amounts, you don't hesitate. You are a current, energetic match for those things, and at one point you probably weren't. When I was in college, I literally was working three jobs. I was running a nonprofit organization. I was so overweight, so exhausted, I was literally in massive survival mode, and I didn't even know it. And so every time I went to go get groceries for just even for myself, I was literally sweating. Paying bullets like I was so stressed, I was so overwhelmed, I didn't know how I was going to make it happen. I had rent like I had I was paying as much as I could of my college tuition. I am taking out college loans like it was just it was so much so early in adulthood that I never want our kids to feel because it was awful, like it was the worst way to start my adult life, like truly. And so with that being said, I was not an energetic match for my current reality. I was a constant, stressed ball, right? I was on the blah ladder, but yet I have these big goals, these big dreams, these big desires, and I was trying so hard, and so now I can buy groceries and not stress. I am an energetic match for that, right? Everyone has different energetic matches currently, and the cool part is, you can do something about it. Okay, no matter where you're at, no matter what is an energetic match for you right now, if you desire more, which, if you're listening to part two of this episode, I'm gonna guess you have more that you want to create, that you're not currently an energetic match for. Or you would just go buy everything today, right? Like, if you had all the money in the world and all the time in the world, then nothing would stop you. Also, like, a little point of view, like, what's the fun in that? Like, yes, that is fun, right? To have, like, all the money in the world and all the time in the world. But like, enjoy this journey of climbing the wealthy ladder, right? Like, after I bought the Taylor Swift tickets, I'm like, what's next? What could I do next? This is such a journey. It is such an adventure. More than anything else, do I wish I had more time, right? Of course, everyone does, but again, if we continue to feed that energy, then we're going to be in such a lack energy, and lack is on the block ladder, so we're just not even going to worry about that. I don't currently have 6080, hours a week of kid free time to work my business. So why feed that energy? That's not my current reality. Okay, so when you break up with the word no, it's too expensive. I don't have the money. I wish right or a not yet, not yet is still a step in the right direction. But with my client today, I invited her forward to start saying yes, yes to everything that she desires. If you've never read or listened to the year of Yes, it is so good. It is so good. One of my favorite books of all time, because she she literally did this for a whole year, she said yes to every opportunity, yes to every desire, even if it wasn't an immediate Yes. She was like, I'm going to figure out the how later. Okay, so some things will be a yes, and then you move some things will be like, yes. Now let me go figure out how this is training you to stop looking for problems again, that's the blah ladder, and start to look for solutions. And so some things will be at the wherever you're at on the ladder, you'll just do a quick like, oh yeah. Like, the other day, I desired a wallet. I found the wallet, and I bought the wallet. That was a quick yes, and then I move, okay, so yes and then fill in the blank, okay, so the yes and then the fill in the blank, maybe go buy it, okay? And if it's not, we're just not yet an energetic match for it, but we can do something about it. Most women are not negotiating, and we get to get better at negotiating, okay, and more than negotiating with anyone else, negotiating with yourself. And what I mean by that is when you say yes, and if it's not an immediate buy it, then I want you to say how, and even more importantly, okay, who, okay, how and who. What I mean by the how and the who is. How can I get it okay and who can support me. You don't have to climb the wealthy ladder alone. You don't you'll actually go so much faster when you're with wealthy friends and you're all climbing the wealthy ladder together. There are, there's study upon study upon study a. Upon study of you literally grabbing a group of people that are going up right? They're going towards a goal, they're they're climbing the wealthy ladder, and you're supporting each other energetically, sometimes even financially, sometimes emotionally, like every which way. Okay, this can be a partner, this can be a mentor. This can be a friend. This can be a team member. This can be your kids, like you get to create who is sitting, not only at your wealthy table, but more importantly, who's climbing the wealthy ladder with you? Okay, so the how and the who, so some of them, some of the things on your desire list, you may be able to quickly figure out the how, and if you can run with it. Now, when you get stumped, then I want you to pour more energy into the who. So, for example, if there was something on your list, let's say like buying a house. Okay, if you're feeling tripped up about that, you're like, I don't know real estate. I've got so many questions. That's when you would reach out to somebody in your network to either ask who they know, okay, or an actual like, real estate agent, or somebody in that world where you're like, can I buy an hour of your time to ask you some questions? There's just some things really fuzzy. Okay, the who can also be YouTube. It can be a book on real estate. It can be a podcast on real estate. You don't always have to immediately jump to spending money or asking your network, but the world, especially now, has resources upon resources upon resources. When you're willing to go look for them. There are so many resources. It is in saying it's insane. And so the coolest part about this is when you say yes, immediately you start creating a new reality in your mind. And we literally create our wealthy life, first here, then in the physical world, okay, the most challenging thing that I've had to really work on over the years is letting go of when it happens, the when, okay, the when used to trip me up. Oh, so much. I'm a type A. I'm a type A, human. I am very regimented, which has been challenging being a mother, because it's not always going to go the way that I want. I'm very OCD, I'm very structured. I'm very type a I'm a planner. I want to be in control. I'm not even going to pretend. I'm not even going to pretend, because that's how I am. I want to be in control. It doesn't surprise me that I'm an entrepreneur, because I want to be in control. So this, if I'm being incredibly boldly honest, the win has been the hardest part. I am so good. I am so fucking good at the how I am so good at the who I have been spending money, investing in team members for over a decade. I've always had a team, always, even in different industries, even in the nonprofit space, I have always enrolled so many people to help me with my my my vision, my goals, my dreams, so many things. So I've been so good. I've been a master, truly, for a decade, more than a decade, two decades, really, I started very young and a very good skin care, but I have mastered the how and the who I'm so good at those, okay, the when of everything happening has been the thing that I have recently, over the last, I would say, year and a half to two years have been really working on because it used to stress me out so much, because if I couldn't nail it by the date that I wanted, then I felt like a giant failure. And so what I've noticed, okay, and I've shared a lot about this recently, but like the Taylor Swift example, okay, Nelly, in February, saw the Taylor Swift tickets and was like, Oh, I really want to go right? I said, Yes, quickly, but then I went to the how, and it felt too hard where I was like, I don't know if I can control the the timeline that. Desire, since it wasn't like an immediate thing that I could go do and, like, lock it in right then. And so I gave up. I gave up so quickly, and then it resurfaced again less than six months later that I couldn't stop thinking about it. And I do believe when things are meant for us, they keep circling us, they keep circling us. They keep circling us until we finally pay attention, right? And so I could, even with the Taylor Swift tickets, I could still feel the win like the win worry, if you will, creep in, but for for the first time, it didn't trip me up. And so much internally changed through those 30 days, like I can't even fully articulate all the mechanics that shifted in those 30 days because I didn't give up so quickly I allowed myself to stay on The wealthy ladder, even when it was just a okay, I'm sitting here. I feel a little awkward, but we're gonna figure it out, right? Like, trust the process, they say. And so even though I was there and I couldn't necessarily move to the next step, which I'm a busy body, like I have ADHD, like, I want to keep moving. Like most of my client calls our phone because, like, if you were to see me, like, I'm literally moving like this, and I need to because that, like, I have so much energy. A lot of times if I don't move, I'm under stimulated. Okay, this is actually something that I learned from Heidi, our sponsor today, ADHD, ers can actually be under stimulated and, like, it can drive you crazy, and so I've had to really adjust how I do things, because I need to move. I have so much energy naturally with ADHD, like I have to get it out. And so that was the biggest challenge for me in those 30 days of manifesting the Taylor Swift tickets, because I couldn't, I couldn't move like I was doing things on the current ladder step right to try to go up, but until I purchased the tickets, I couldn't go to the next level. Okay, so I was hanging out, right? And so that can be uncomfortable for most humans, and it brings up insecurities. It brings up fears. This is why people stay too busy, right? This is why we scroll on social media. This is why we like numb out to Netflix, right? This is why we stuff our calendar back to back to back. Because when you're with yourself and you're just kind of hanging out, it's going to literally bring up everything, everything. But this is the most important thing, because the minute that I purchased those tickets, which it was supposed to be for two tickets, and it turned into four, if that tells you anything about the mechanics, the belief, the everything that happened in that time frame, that when that happened, I was like, I can do anything. I can do anything. There has been this explosion of confidence that I have not fully felt ever, that I'm like, I can do anything. If I can do that, I can do anything. I can do anything. And it was more than the money, like it wasn't the money. Okay, I've actually spent more money in my business and even in my personal life than I did okay. But here's the thing that changed one it was like, for me and for a team member, and then it was like, then it was for two extra people. So it was a big want. It wasn't like a have to, right? It wasn't like, oh, well, this is for a mentor or a coach or a team member, right? So it was harder to justify it, right? In my mind, it was like frivolous, right? And so it brought up everything. And so the the most important thing about this, of why I feel like I can do anything now, is because. Because of everything that it brought up, and I didn't run away. I didn't run away. I sat in the discomfort. I sat in the discomfort and regulated around it and worked through it because I wanted it so bad. I wanted it so bad. That is why I feel like I can do anything, because that energy of being willing to sit in the discomfort for something that you really desire, and being able to see it all the way through is something that you can translate to any situation, any goal, any desire, no matter the dollar amount. It has nothing to do with the dollar amount. It's what happened in those 30 days and the behavior change that I saw in myself, of not running away, not jumping to the blah ladder, because it felt so uncomfortable, so even though I was on the wealthy ladder, I was feeling blah emotions, but because it was a desire that I had and because I was willing to stay in it, I was still on the wealthy ladder. There's a big difference when you're feeling blah emotions and energy, because it's like day to day life, right? That is the blah ladder. But when you're in a manifestation that you currently desire and you're on that level, okay, so I would recommend one. Oh, my, I've been talking so much. My my marker dried up. Um, so when you're on the wealthy ladder, and you're putting everything in order. Okay, I would go level by level by level by level. Okay, so you're gonna, but here's the cool part about this, okay, let me see if I can grab another marker one second. Okay? Yeah, okay, so the minute you do this exercise, okay, I'll bring this up again. I already said yes to everything on here. Okay, so the minute you do the exercise, okay, you then created the yes in your mind. You created the reality in your mind. Now we're going to start creating it in the physical world. The physical world is a little bit slower than your mind. Okay, the universe has to change and rearrange it. It's kind of like, if anyone remembers dial up where, like, somebody couldn't be on the phone. And then there was, like, that you had to, like, wait there, and you're like, sitting there, and you're wanting to, like, go on AIM, to talk to your friends, anyone. So the universe is a lot like the internet used to be with dial up. It's gonna take a minute, okay, for things to rearrange. It's not it's not going to happen as quickly. Again, this is why so many people jump to the blah ladder, because it's not happening fast enough, right? Like we put out one social media post, we do one mini launch, or we talk about a product once, and we're like, but we're not a millionaire, millionaire yet. So it's not going to happen for me. It's just not in the cards for me. And then you jump to the blah ladder again. Okay, so we get to regulate and get comfortable with the win. Is not let me be careful with my words. We're not stressed about the win. Okay, you do. You can. I don't want to say you can't. You can increase the odds for success of when it happens. So you are in control. Okay, so I'm not going to take the control away from you, because we like control. We like control, so don't tell us that we don't have control. However, I just, like a mentor is here to be your like, your blind spots, right? And so what I want from you is to focus way more energy and put way more effort into your how and your who, and just let the win. Let the win be the thing that is in your closet that's like in the back of your closet that like you, even like you forgot about it. You forgot that it was there. You don't really wear it, okay, but it's in your closet. It's there, okay, so let it be there. But anytime. You get stressed or worried about when I just want you to go back to to doing something or asking for more help. Okay, the win will take care of itself. The more you stay in the how and the who say it with me. Okay, we're gonna we're here together. Okay, the when will take care of itself, the more I you and me, but I focus on putting effort in the how and the who and not giving up too quickly, okay, not giving up too quickly, so the how and the Who are your responsibility. This is your responsibility, the how and the who. So even when you enroll support, it's still your dream, it's still your responsibility, but you can share like a piece of the responsibility with who you're enrolling and who's supporting you, but it's still, at the end of the day, your responsibility. Okay? So again, anytime you start to worry about the win, I just want you to be like, Okay, what else can I do? What else can I do? So when people tell me that they're not very patient, that they want something happening faster, then I say, be more persistent. Be more persistent. I'll give you a prime example. Years ago, when I was in the fundraising world, I got the manifestation that I wanted a fundraiser fashion show at the Hilton Hotel. I couldn't stop thinking about it again. Taylor Swift energy, I couldn't stop thinking about it. I wanted it to happen. I just knew it would. It would make us feel legit as a nonprofit. I was very young. People weren't taking me seriously, that I was like, if we can have a fundraiser at the Hilton hotel like it will start to people will start to notice this isn't just a little like cafeteria type of fundraiser, right? Where people are playing bingo. This is like a high end event at the Hilton Hotel. Okay? And mind you, I was like, we're going to get it for free. Okay? Again, you say yes, and you create the reality first in your mind. So I emailed once, didn't get a response. I emailed again. I think I was how old I was, I I was, I would think I was 17 or 18 at the time. I emailed again, didn't get a response. So then I picked up the phone, which is very like, not a big thing that a teenager likes to do, but I picked up the phone, went to voicemail at the Hilton like they transferred me. They're probably like, oh, it's her. But at the voicemail, I called again and again and again, and by the time I finally got somebody on the phone, I said, Will you please just give me 15 minutes of your time to explain my vision? And so they finally said, yes, okay, again, persistency. And so I had that meeting. By the end of that meeting, they said, when would you like to have your your fundraiser here? We would love to host you. And guess what? Like, I didn't have any connections. Nobody put in a favor for me. Everything that I've done has been self made. Okay? I have built everything from the ground up, blood, sweat and tears at times, and so I picked a date. Okay? It was a$30,000 venue that they gave us for free. Staffed it like the whole nine yards, and they, they did this multiple times for an 18 year old, okay, but I had a goal. I had a vision. I wanted, I wanted to feel like the real deal. And we literally had hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people come to the fashion show and raise crazy amounts of money, and so I saw it through. So again, don't give up too quickly on the wealthy ladder. The bigger goals and dreams are going to take more energy and effort, or everyone would have them, right? So if you put them on your list and you say yes to them, some things will be a quick dopamine where you're like, oh my gosh, yes, I did that right? Like, the wallet that I wanted came today, and I already moved everything in it. It's so cute. I can't wait to show it to you. If you check out my stories. Well, depending on when you are listening to this, it's so cute. It's Hello Kitty. It's a Hello Kitty cupcake. And it just makes me happy. And that's how life should be. Things should make you happy. Okay, so when you're putting everything on your list, and you're putting it in order, you're then going to again, don't you love my doodles? Okay, I'm just on a roll. I'm on a roll. I'm. Okay, this is like, Nelly after dark. Okay? I don't like, I just, I don't stress about the time. Okay, somebody asked me the other day, they're like, how long should my podcast episodes be? I was like, I don't ever put a time on myself. The other day, it was 10 minutes right now, I've, I don't even know how long I've talked for, but I just trust that the people that want it are going to they're going to listen and it's going to help somebody. Okay, so I don't stress myself out about that stuff that we don't worry about that. Okay, so when you put everything in order, okay, of what you want, okay, this. If you are an Excel person, you will totally want to do this in Excel. I already see you getting excited about this, okay, if you're a doodler like me, you're going to want a piece of paper. But do this however you want to do this, okay, but you're going to put everything in order from easiest to most challenging. Okay, I can't number. I'm having a hard time numbering. Okay, so you're just going to go down the list. I have currently 36 things, but I already thought of more in true ADHD fashion, okay, but I currently have 36 things. Technically, now I have 35 Well, now 34 because there's something else I already did that I need to cross off, okay, but you'll put everything that you can currently think about on this piece of paper, okay? Or your Excel spreadsheet. I knew we had an Excel person here. I just had a feeling, okay. You can color code it do whatever your heart desires, okay. So then you're going to put down. The next category will be how, okay. And then the next category will be who, okay. So here's the beautiful part about all of this. Once we start flushing this out, some things will be easier for you to fill in the how, some things will be easier for you to fill in the who, a little bit of both. Just it's kind of like, do what you can. Okay, when you are filling this out, just do what you can. You don't need to have everything figured out, but fill in the blanks that you can. Okay, start getting the creative juices flowing again. You doing this exercise is already saying yes to everything on this list. Okay, it's already saying yes to everything, even though you haven't pulled out the credit card or, you know, walked into a store or messaged anyone. You already are saying yes by doing this exercise, by listening to this episode and doing the exercise, so you're already well on your way to making this happen, and you organizing it from easiest to most challenging is also key, because this now becomes your timeline. Okay, so on my list, I don't have a timeline. Do I have an idea of when I would love things to happen? For sure that again, I want control, okay, but again, anytime I go to the worry of when it's going to happen, you just get to it's kind of like a to do list. This is the best type of to do list. This is a wealthy to do list, because the win is literally up to you based on where you're at on your list. Okay, just as if this was a regular to do list that you're like following like a highest priority to lowest priority, and you just keep crossing it off, okay, then the wind becomes up to you, because let's get some of the easier things crossed off the list. Because now you're collapsing time. The longer you stay on the wealthy ladder. Okay, you're also collapsing time because every time you jump and stay on the blah ladder. You can't, you can't be over here. Okay, so you collapse so much time. So if you don't want to wait, if you're like, I want everything now, you've got to commit more than you ever have before, of not feeding the negative energy, not feeding the blah energy in my house tonight, someone said something that I was like, nope. Like, nope. We ain't saying that here, okay. And my husband was like, but like, we were just joking. I was like, nope, if you know what's good for you. Like, and we were like, like, so. Bantering. But I, like, stood in my power. I was like, no, if you know what's good for you, like, No, we don't say that. Like, we don't say that. And so that moment is, like, those moments are so powerful. So if you find yourself saying I can't afford that, you're going to be like, Nope, we ain't saying that. Like, call yourself out. Okay, call yourself out. When I I signed a year contract with the coach a few years ago. I worked with him for two years. I said yes to him before I had the money. Now, let me explain how this was still financially responsible. I said, Yes, and I've been doing this for years, okay, yes. And, and then I said, I get to, I get to go figure out the how. And I kept messaging him over and over and over again, okay? And I said, I will be your client. I will be your client like, I will be your client. And sometimes people can say that and they're like, they're not meaning it, but when you're creating the actions around it like you truly mean it, I was able to manifest a$25,000 coach in under three months. Okay? And it's because even though I didn't know it at the time, I was climbing the wealthy ladder, I said yes, in my mind, first allowed myself to be in the manifestation, and I figured out the way the most exciting part about you having a business or starting a business is You have no cap on money. There were years ago where I asked for a raise at my day job, and it got denied. I drove home that day crying, and I said, that will be the last time somebody has control over my financial future, and that's exactly why I'm talking to you today, that moment where I was on the blah ladder because I was denied a very worthy salary increase, and it was denied and there was no plan of action, is the exact reason Why I am talking to you today. Sometimes rejection is redirection. Sometimes it is protection. Sometimes it is pushing you and the direction that you need to go. Because guess what? I was meant for, what I'm doing now, I am meant to do this. This is truly my calling. I don't know if the version of myself then would have had the courage to say, You know what, I'm going to go out and do something on my own. I needed the kick, I needed the push, I needed the wake up call moment. And so those are wealthy wake up call moments, even if they don't feel like it, they are. And when we can remind ourselves of that, it lit a fire under my ass, and I was like, I don't know what I'm going to do. I didn't even know the word fully, like, I knew the word mentor, but like, I didn't. I didn't know how to make a funnel. I didn't know how to make an offer. I didn't have a PayPal account, like, I didn't have a team. I didn't have a logo, I didn't have a business started again. I didn't have the how or the who, but I was like, You know what? What I know is, it's time to go. It's time to go. And it took me from that moment, it took me a year and a half. So this is what I'm talking about. Sometimes it's going to be a minute you get to sit in the discomfort and be not be okay with it, but you've got to see it through okay. Because during that year and a half, there were still ups and downs, there were still fears, there were still worries, like, can I really do this? Can I financially support myself. Like, this is scary, right? Like, what if? What if? What if? But the pain of having another moment of getting a salary denied was far too strong for me to even think about staying okay. So that's the discomfort of like, I'm going to see it through until I get to where I want to go, and I'm going to figure it out. I will figure it out. So things may take you a day to get crossed off this list. Some will take you uh, a month. Some will take you three months. Some will take you a year and a half. There's one that I've been working on for a very long time. And it will eventually happen, but it takes time, and I trust that when the one that has been taking me the longest happens, that in I just trust and I know that in the moment that it actually happens, I'm gonna be like, again, energy, protection. I'm like, okay, that's why it took that long, right? Like there were things that needed to change and rearrange so that I could actually enjoy the manifestation, right, and be in it and keep it everything is working for you, even the timeline, even if it goes past when you're like, I really wanted it like yesterday. Okay, it's all actually working for you when you choose to look at it that way. And then again, get back to the the the who and the how. You don't need to know all the steps. But can we think of something right, like, can we think of one thing to do, two things to do three things to do. Okay, so when you're filling out this whole list, you can do different colors, but you're just going to make it like a game. Okay, you can, you can get as fancy as you want. Okay, you can, you can excel it. Okay, but we're gonna see uh for sure, everything should be filled out on the what, as far as your brain will let you go, okay. And then fill out the how and the who, as much as you know in this current moment, don't worry if there's blanks. Don't worry if there's question marks. Don't worry if you're like, oh, like, I like, I don't know. That's okay. That's okay. The the ones towards the top should feel the easiest. And then that's where I want you to start. That's where I want you to to go first. Okay, as if it is a to do list. This is your wealthy to do list. So then you go to, let's see here, what's the next one? I have many that I'm like, are all happening, and that's the thing. Some will be like, where, if they're towards the top, like, all the ones, let me see here, uh, two through honestly, two through 14 on my list literally are, in a way, all happening at the same time. Because they're like, really easy, okay, they're quick, easy things that are all happening, like, simultaneously, okay, and you can be a rebel, like, maybe tomorrow, you're like, Oh, I actually think I can do number three, like be a rebel, okay, but as much as you can stay at the top half, because then this is going to create momentum, and, most importantly, belief and confidence that then once you start getting into the middle, and then the More challenging things again, they won't feel like it, because you're becoming an energetic match for them. Okay, you're in real time. Not only are you accomplishing things that you desire, creating that belief, creating that confidence, but you're becoming an energetic match that things that maybe are blank right now for the middle and the bottom section, by the time you get to them, I guarantee you mark my words, things will start things and people and downloads and ideas will start to show up. I kid you not, every time, every time, every time. It is so cool. It might even get to the point where things start showing up, people start showing up. And you're like, This feels too good to be true. Which you get to work on that? Okay, I've been working on that myself. I'm like, This feels too good to be true. Because if you come from having things and then them being taken away from you, okay, this is where, like, trauma healing comes into play. You may have, you may have some of that residue that you're like, if this is too good to be true. Once I have something, it gets taken away from me. Okay, so that's why you've got to really regulate yourself around the the desire, so that way you can just enjoy it so much, like I've told Sarah so many times, I want to, like record pretty much the whole concert in a way that it's not going to distract because I just want to go, like, back and relive it over and over and over again, and I just want to relish in that moment and savor that moment so much. And so that's what's so important about it, is because we don't want to get to the thing. Thing and feel wobbly, okay, and then be nervous that we're not going to keep it. So the more we can anchor in that it is meant for you, that you will keep it okay, then you'll you'll truly enjoy it so much more, and you deserve to enjoy it. Okay, so I am going to sign off. This is your homework. I hope you enjoyed this part two, and let's get to work. Let me know how I can help. A little spoiler alert, this is exactly what wealthy year is designed to help you do, and how I'm launching wealthy year is I don't want you to worry about the price. You're actually not going to know the price, and I get to be careful of this from a trauma informed standpoint. But I want you to read about wealthy year, and I want you to apply and not worry about the price, because then that shows me you desire it, and you're not you're not jumping out of the desire and climbing on the blah ladder because you're like, Oh, I can't afford it. So it's almost an exercise. It's not almost it is designed to be an exercise of you seeing something that you desire and you're not worried about the price tag and knowing that we'll figure out the how and the who, if, if if you'll trust yourself, right? So it is designed to do that, so stay tuned. I.